What I’m trying to do here is to provide some basic arguments people use against gay marriage, along with a small response from my personal perspective. I am not homosexual (even though my About Page says I am), but I am pro-marriage, gay or straight.
Before I do anything, I’m going to make it a point to say that I’m not trying to generalize anyone here. I make statements that “Christians do this” or “homosexuals do that”, but I know that everyone is different. No two people are exactly alike. Please keep that in mind while reading this.
1. The Religious Anti-gay Marriage Argument
This one legit makes me mad.
I understand that The Bible says homosexuality is an “abomination” (Leviticus 18:22), but it also says “there is only one lawgiver and judge, he who is able to save and to destroy. But who are you to judge your neighbor?” (James 4:12).
Leviticus also says not to slander people, not to trim your beard, not to get tattoos, not to work on the Sabbath, and almost seventy other things of the sort. You’ve heard this rebuttal several times I’m sure. I’m not the first to say it.
Given how crazy many Christians are about homosexuality, the Bible really doesn’t say all that much about it. Just in a few spots that people hunt-and-peck for to use as ammo for their cause. Unfortunately Leviticus doesn’t specify whether it’s talking about consensual sex between two people of the same gender or if it’s talking about homosexual rape like in the Sodom and Gomorrah story. Lee Jefferson posted on the Huffington Post that any contemporary critique on the Leviticus holiness codes used against gay-marriage must realize that these codes reflect a “particular time and place in Israelite history” and should be left at that. Jesus himself made no explicit comment on homosexuality as far as I have ever seen.
I’m not going to go too far into this because I don’t want people thinking I don’t like Christians. There are many Christians (a quickly growing number) who are realizing that while the Bible may say homosexuality is wrong in a certain context, but they also understand that we should love everyone and not judge them for who they are. If Christians were treated the way homosexuals are today, they might feel differently about how they treat others. Again, I’m not talking about all Christians by any means, just the ones who don’t understand acceptance and tolerance.
2. Gay Marriage Stifles Genetic Lines
This isn’t a common argument, but I have heard it a couple of times, and it really doesn’t make any sense to me. There are actually people out there who are against gay marriage because it potentially stifles genetic lines. Really? There are seven billion people on the Earth, with only a fraction of these being homosexual. People are going to be gay whether or not they can get married legally, so I don’t even see where this argument comes from.
3. The Slippery Slope Argument
“If we allow the gays to get married next thing we know polygamy will be legal, pedophilia will be legal, people will be marrying their horses!” I don’t have anything against polygamy even though I personally am not into it. I’ve seen Sister Wives before. I can see how this kind of lifestyle can work in certain situations. But pedophilia and bestiality? How is that even comparable to homosexuality.
Do you want to know the difference between an adult having sexual congress with another adult and an adult having sex with a child or a horse? Consent. Children and horses can’t give proper consent. Adult males and females over the age of 18 can. That’s the problem with most slippery slope arguments – they don’t make sense.
4. Homosexuals are Perverts and a Tumor on Society
Dude, look around. We’re all perverts. Look at the Church. Look at professional sports, look on TV, at movies. Two men or two females who love each other getting married are the least of your worries.
5. The Gay-Lifestyle is Off-putting
This is the one argument that makes at least a little sense, but it still has nothing to do with marriage. I’ll come out and say it, the “stereotypical gay” lifestyle is off-putting sometimes. To someone who is not in the loop, it looks immature: the hand-flapping, the drama-seeking, the loud and obnoxious laughing and playing, the sassyness.
But guess what – only a small group of homosexuals act this way. Yeah, not all gay people are the stereotypical homosexual you see on TV. Just like how not all southerners are like the Duck Dynasty guys, like how not all people from New Jersey are like the Jersey Shore guys. We’re all different.
Is it possible some homosexuals act this way because of all the oppression and hatred they receive on a daily basis? Imagine never being able to have a legitimate crush on somebody because you’re afraid at how the people around you might respond to it. When a person comes “out of the closet”, it must feel like finally being able to enter puberty for the first time. No wonder. I’d probably act like that too.
6. Do They Really Need Parades?
Yes. Yes they do. Until the discrimination and hatred ends.
When the question is “Should some people have less rights than others because of ___” the answer is no. It doesn’t matter who you are, what you believe, the color of your skin, or who you love, rights are rights. Gay marriage does not victimize anyone, even from a Christian standpoint. It’s an agreement between two consenting people. It’s time to realize that we all live on this planet together, and that we need to love each other no matter what.